Boundaries & Protecting Your Peace

Boundaries & Protecting Your Peace

7/08/2019


Boundaries are something I don't have a bunch of experience with. I'm the girl that allowed anyone to say and do anything no matter if it was healthy for me. I was more concerned with keeping people in my life than I was to stand up and say "this just isn't healthy for me".

I knew if I set that line in the sand most would walk away and I'd be alone.

Alone is not something I was ok with in the past, I didn't think I was worth anything unless there were people around me.

As I level up through life, much like a video game, I'm faced with the task of holding boundaries to keep me healthy. This means saying goodbye to those who can't honor my boundaries.

Those that truly respect you won't have a problem with your boundaries but those who are simply feeding on your energy will try to turn it around. Giving excuses as to why their behavior is ok and should be accepted. They'll try to guilt you out of your boundaries.

I'm finally in the place to be able to let those go that don't honor my boundaries because boundaries aren't set to separate they are set to connect in a Healthy way.

Not everyone you start with or pickup along the way, will end with you. Some have no interest in being healthy, they simply want their needs met.

Each level of this game of life gives us another challenge. Mine is letting go instead of desperately holding on to those who have very little respect for me.

When you hold on to the toxic, you risk becoming toxic yourself. You will start to become whom you associate with.

If your people are always negative and complaining, you will start to be negative and complain! I'm not sure about you guys but I've worked my butt off to not be negative all the time. I've worked my butt off to find gratitude in everything I do. 

You know you've grown when you'll let anyone go that threatens the peace you've created. 

I protect my peace and mental health with the same passion that I protect my child. I know what I bring to the table and will not feel like I'm just an option or a trash can for complaining.

Keep fighting Warriors, those who leave aren't a loss to you. You've actually gained by holding to your boundaries and protecting your peace!

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