Wellness Healing Warrior

Boundaries & Protecting Your Peace 7/08/2019 Boundaries are something I don't have a bunch of experience with. I'm the girl that allowed anyone to say and do anything no matter if it was healthy for me. I was more concerned with keeping people in my life than I was to stand up and say "this just isn't healthy for me". I knew if I set that line in the sand most would walk away and I'd be alone. Alone is not something I was ok with in the past, I didn't think I was worth anything unless there were people around me. As I level up through life, much like a video game, I'm faced with the task of holding boundaries to keep me healthy. This means saying goodbye to those who can't honor my boundaries. Those that truly respect you won't have a problem with your boundaries but those who are simply feeding on your energy will try to turn it around. Giving excuses as to why their behavior is ok and should be accepted. They'll try to guilt you out o...

As painful as it is; it wasn't personal.. 9/06/2019 You aren't to blame for what they said and did, no matter how you cut it you are only responsible for your behavior. ​Most likely it isn't personal at all, they are just not strong enough to overcome their own traumas. In my opinion, most if not all narcissistic people are that way because they weren't strong enough to mentally overcome their hardships in life and in early childhood; unlike sociopaths and psychopaths that are more than likely born that way. When you can separate yourself from the trauma you can really start to look at it and see that everything was motivated to sustain their false image. It only becomes personal when we figure them out and fight back. When you can accept that they would have done it to anyone, not just you, it becomes easier to let go of the pain. When you can let that go, you can replace it with gratitude which will change everything about you! We must feel our feelings but make sure ...

Andersen Update 6/25/2019 ​Five months have passed and so much has happened. ​ ​​I'm in a completely different headspace as well as a completely different relationship space. These days are the days I prayed for during the entirety of my 20's.  The hostility that used to linger around us is gone! We talk and enjoy each others company, we work as a team under all fronts, we don't blindly agree with each other but we discuss differences respectfully and we focus on only showing love to each other! We have so much fun raising Seraphim, watching her grow. She's fully caught up to her age and thriving, I say my little genius but I could be biased! 😆 She's got such a full personality and stands up for what she wants and cares about. Right now she says she wants to be a doctor so we've started to nurture those interests.😍 The hubs is doing a lot of work to stay on track, we both finally got into trauma therapy! An accident derailed a few things for him, lots of trigg...

1/03/2019 Hey Warriors, I feel like I've been gone for a really long time. The holidays had me a bit scatterbrained and took a bunch of energy to stay on the off-schedule that I was on. I want to touch on a few things I did during the holiday season, both good and bad since I'm all about transparency! ​I started off December at a good speed; we had only been on a night schedule for a couple of weeks. With the excitement of baby girl's birthday and introducing her to Elf on the Shelf, I was truly running on pure excitement.  As the days passed, I started sacrificing myself for the family. That meant I was not prioritizing 'me' time because I knew the family as a whole was already stressed not to mention each person individually.  Everyone's sleep was off which also meant our eating was off but I rationalized giving up healthy eating because I was still being aware of everything; as in my food intake and mindset. Now we are not a clean eating family, but I try to ...