Wellness Healing Warrior

The Fight of My Life Written - 12/9/2018 The trauma that dropped me to my knees and changed life as I knew it completely. I don't know I'll go through every detail of every part of the trauma just because I don't know it's necessary. If there is something that you want me to expand on or explain further please just leave me a comment and I will either create a new post or add in that section for you. To fully understand what happened, I guess it would make more sense for me to start from when I met my husband that way you see the whole picture. So here goes... I found myself in one of the hardest times of my life in September, October, and November of 2013. I called Cass homeless shelter my home. That is where I met Josh, my husband. We possessed nothing but ourselves. From the moment I encountered him, I felt safe but completely different. He never handled me like a piece of meat or the conquest he was trying to conquer. He consistently attended to me like a human bein...

Boundaries & Protecting Your Peace 7/08/2019 Boundaries are something I don't have a bunch of experience with. I'm the girl that allowed anyone to say and do anything no matter if it was healthy for me. I was more concerned with keeping people in my life than I was to stand up and say "this just isn't healthy for me". I knew if I set that line in the sand most would walk away and I'd be alone. Alone is not something I was ok with in the past, I didn't think I was worth anything unless there were people around me. As I level up through life, much like a video game, I'm faced with the task of holding boundaries to keep me healthy. This means saying goodbye to those who can't honor my boundaries. Those that truly respect you won't have a problem with your boundaries but those who are simply feeding on your energy will try to turn it around. Giving excuses as to why their behavior is ok and should be accepted. They'll try to guilt you out o...

Richardson Update 2/09/2020 I'm not sure how the year got away from me but 2019 went so fast and here we are already in February 2020🤦‍♀️. If you ever doubted that your entire life can change in the span of five months. Buckle your seatbelts because I'm going to show you exactly how much life can change in five short months… First, we're living in a completely trauma free home *does happy dance*. Carving out my own space in this new community is helping me grow further. Although the comfort zone is nice, it's not where we grow and this family is all about growing into our best selves. Seraphim is doing amazing, mastering sounds left and right. So they are moving her up and she will be getting ready to start school soon. Josh is the one that has the most amazing news of these past five months. I've gotten into our story in pieces along the way, but for this to have the most impact on you guys, i have to give you a little backstory. After our trauma with Josh's b...

Complex-PTSD, Narcissistic Abuse & Recovery 6/27/2019 As I watch Josh really start the journey I started last summer, I get anxious for him.  Cutting through years of junk is hard work, it's painful and sometimes feels hopeless. We got a huge note of validation today though! We got his records from a neurologist he was seeing back in 2008/2009. We Both got to see what he's been fighting on paper. We got to see that the in-laws had a visit with his doc without him present (he was not a minor) and got to see the docs remarks and opinions of that visit. Doctors/professionals that are aware and document clear signs of abuse are the hidden heroes that nobody knows about. Narcissistic abuse is hard to recover from because it fractures who you are. You don't see the world the same so to hold not only court records but doctors records documenting the clear abuse of parental power gives the survivor a piece of their voice back. It's unimaginable that a person would be so mal...

Andersen Update 6/25/2019 ​Five months have passed and so much has happened. ​ ​​I'm in a completely different headspace as well as a completely different relationship space. These days are the days I prayed for during the entirety of my 20's.  The hostility that used to linger around us is gone! We talk and enjoy each others company, we work as a team under all fronts, we don't blindly agree with each other but we discuss differences respectfully and we focus on only showing love to each other! We have so much fun raising Seraphim, watching her grow. She's fully caught up to her age and thriving, I say my little genius but I could be biased! 😆 She's got such a full personality and stands up for what she wants and cares about. Right now she says she wants to be a doctor so we've started to nurture those interests.😍 The hubs is doing a lot of work to stay on track, we both finally got into trauma therapy! An accident derailed a few things for him, lots of trigg...